The pursuit of happiness and meaning are two of our most central motivations in life. A wealth of research in positive psychology suggests that happiness and meaning are, in fact, essential elements of wellbeing. Happiness and meaning are strongly correlated with each other, and often feed off each other. The more meaning we find in life, the more happy we typically feel, and the more happy we feel, the more we often feel encouraged to pursue even greater meaning and purpose.

But not always.

An increasing body of research suggests that there can be substantial trade-offs between seeking happiness and seeking meaning in life. Consider, for instance, the ‘parenthood paradox’: parents often report that they are very happy they had children, but parents who are living with children usually score very low on measures of happiness. It seems that raising children can decrease happiness but increase meaning. Or consider revolutionaries, who often suffer through years of violence and discord for a larger purpose that can ultimately bring great satisfaction and meaning to their lives and the lives of others.

In his delightful book Meanings of Life, Roy Baumeister used examples such as these to argue that people seek not just happiness but also meaning in life. Likewise, eminent Austrian psychiatrist Viktor Frankl famously argued that humans have a “will to meaning” in his seminal recounting of his harrowing (yet often meaningful) experiences living in a concentration camp during the Holocaust.

In recent years, a number of studies have further supported the differences between happiness and meaning. In one clever study published in 2013, Baumeister and colleagues found that factors such as feeling connected to others, feeling productive, and not being alone or bored contributed to both happiness and meaning. However, they also found some important differences:

• Finding one’s life easy or difficult was related to happiness, but not meaning.
• Feeling healthy was related to happiness, but not meaning.
• Feeling good was related to happiness, but not meaning.
• Scarcity of money reduced happiness more than meaning.
• People with more meaningful lives agreed that “relationships are more important than achievements.”
• Helping people in need was linked to meaning but not happiness.
• Expecting to do a lot of deep thinking was positively related to meaningfulness, but negatively with happiness.
• Happiness was related more to being a taker rather than a giver, whereas meaning was related more to being a giver than a taker.
• The more people felt their activities were consistent with core themes and values of their self, the greater meaning they reported in their activities.
• Seeing oneself as wise, creative and even anxious were all linked to meaning but had no relationship (and in some cases even showed a negative relationship) to happiness.

It seems that happiness has more to do with having your needs satisfied, getting what you want and feeling good, whereas meaning is more related to uniquely human activities such as developing a personal identity, expressing the self, and consciously integrating one’s past, present and future experiences.

Further support for this idea can be found in a recent study conducted by Jo Ann Abe on the impact of happiness and meaning-making over an extended period of time. This study overcomes some limitations of prior research on this topic, such as the reliance on self-report questionnaires and the assessment of happiness and meaning at a single point in time.

Abe extracted measures of happiness and meaning-making from weekly journals, which were written over the course of a semester. The participants were given freedom to write about what they wanted, and were encouraged to elaborate on their thoughts and feelings. Therefore, this study allowed people to really process their emotions and integrate their experiences across time.

The journals were analysed using a well-validated computerised text-analysis program developed by James Pennebaker and colleagues. Happiness was assessed by looking at the frequency of positive emotion words (eg happy, laugh).

There is a general consensus that meaning has at least two major components. The cognitive processing component involves making sense and integrating experiences. The purpose component is more motivational and involves actively pursuing long-term goals that reflect one’s identity and transcends narrow self-interests. Abe assessed the cognitive component of meaning by analysing the frequency of causal words (eg because, reason) and insight words (eg understand, realise). She assessed the purpose component of meaning by analysing the use of third-person pronouns (which would indicate a detached, third-person perspective).

What did Abe find? First, the frequency of positive emotions was only weakly related to measures of adaptive functioning at follow-up (which ranged from half a year to seven years). In fact, positive emotionality was negatively related to optimism and positively related to emotion suppression at follow-up. This finding is consistent with other research showing that even though meaning-making may be associated with negative emotions in the moment, it may contribute to greater resiliency and wellbeing in the longer term.

This finding also supports the potential downside of happiness. While happiness may make us feel good in the moment, the avoidance of negative thoughts and feelings may stunt personal development over time. After all, personal development often requires experiencing the full range of emotions (see here, here, here, here, here). There is also emerging research that over time, happiness is associated with an increased sense of loneliness and a decreased sense of wellbeing.

In contrast, the two measures of meaning (cognitive processing and purpose) were positively associated with most of the measures of adaptation. In particular, cognitive processing was very strongly related to grit (passion and perseverance for long-term goals), and self-distancing was robustly related to gratitude and wellbeing, and negatively related to emotion suppression. What’s more, the interaction between cognitive processing and self-distancing was additionally associated with measures of adaptation. It seems that meaning-making is particularly adaptive if one can maintain a self-detached, third-person perspective.